Finding the Good in People

Finding the good in other people can be a much simpler task than finding the good in ourselves.

Typically, I can identify the good in the folks around me. It’s always easiest when they are family. It’s not difficult if they are close friends. I find it not too hard when they’re new friends. This is not to be mistaken for wearing rose colored glasses. “There’s good and bad in everyone,” sing Stevie Wonder and Paul McCartney in Ebony and Ivory.

When we notice that wonderful aspect of another somebody, sharing that compliment feels good to the giver and the receiver. It’s an exchange that is welcome. It’s easy.

Now, consider examining the good traits in oneself. I believe I have good qualities. Identifying and appreciating those traits? Now, that is the challenge.

Our parents taught us to avoid boasting. This is an important life skill. Yet, this rule can be taken to an extreme. For example, a woman speaking positively about herself is labeled stuck-up. So, next time, she keeps quiet. Even a man can qualify as conceited when conversing about his accomplishment. So, we save it to ourselves; self-conscious and careful with our self-descriptions. Unfortunately, we also avoid the internal dialog, “I am a thoughtful person.” “I am creative as an artist.” “I love my dog and take great care of him.”

I’m not advocating for an arrogant attitude. I believe, instead, we should intentionally consider our strengths. Our own positive traits should be recognized. We should regularly find the good in ourselves. After all, we are people, too.

Take the time now to ponder and come up with a few positive traits inside you. Use these few moments to appreciate and cherish the good in you.

I’ll do the same.

Take care of yourselves and each other,

The Train is Coming ‘Round Again

I published my first blog in 2012. I documented my personal history with mental illness. I shared stories from my childhood. I wrote about parenting my son on the spectrum. I loved that blog.

Then, my life hit some raging rapids. It was rough. I lost my blog in 2016. I did not pay attention to the notices of RENEW NOW. I didn’t back up my content. I never saved the essays anywhere else. I was foolish and I lost it all.

After grieving for a few years, it’s time. My life is manageable and kinda-sorta calm-ish. Kids are older. Some have moved to their own nests. My mental health is not so rocky.

My environment is not as chaotic or busy as Grand Central Station. I loved that stage for our family. However, I appreciate that particular phase has passed.

I do look forward to the adventures of our future. I am excited to write new stories.

I vow to backup my blog. I promise to save it.

If you read this blog before, I do hope you will join me now, again.

If you are new, welcome.

Welcome to a calmer Grand Central.